Fam, Let’s Talk About Defining Your “Normal”

lettersbyreesianal
Oct 10, 2025
3 min read

Shalom Family.

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself, “What’s normal for us?” Not what the world says, not what that influencer says, not what your mama or daddy did. I’m talking about what works for you and your family.

Why This Conversation Matters

Here’s the thing, we live in a world where everybody’s rhythm is loud. You get on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and before you know it, you’re questioning your whole setup:

“Should I be waking the kids up at 5 a.m.?”“Should we be eating this way?”“Should I start a business because everyone else is?”

Nah, fam. That’s how you lose your peace.

We’ve learned over the years that we have to define our own level of “normaly” (yes, we say normaly!) — and once we get in that flow, we protect it.

What Our Rhythm Looks Like

Every year, usually around April, we sit down and pray about where we’re going. We ask Yah what the focus needs to be for the year, and then we adjust our lives around that.

For us, that might look like:

Letting the kids sleep in so we can get work done first.
Splitting household duties based on strengths (not gender roles).
Switching up who cooks based on what season of life we’re in.

And listen — if it’s working, we don’t switch it up just because a new trend pops up online. Slow motion is better than no motion.

Stop Looking Left and Right

Fam, let me tell you. If you’re out here getting some momentum , even slow momentum, stop abandoning ship every time you see someone else getting results.

It’s like fishing. Sometimes you gotta stay on that pier, even if you ain’t getting bites right away. The fish will come if you just stay put and stay consistent.

Family is the Foundation

Everything we do starts with family. We have weekly family meetings, and check in with each other daily. We don’t sweep things under the rug. We talk it out, stay aligned, and keep moving.

That right there keeps the house running smooth, even with kids banging on the door while we record.

Take Care of Your Livelihood

And I ain’t just talking about your paycheck. I’m talking about your body, your mind, your spirit.

For Reesi? She needs her quiet time in the morning. She needs to hear from Yah first.

For Dre? He gotta sweat it out when he’s not feeling good, get that sun on his skin.

Point is — figure out what you need to stay well and do that every day.

Work & Purpose Go Together

If you say you believe in God, then you gotta live it out, including in how you work. Whatever Yah told you to do, stick to it.

Yeah, results might take time. Yeah, you might feel like you’re not where you want to be. But fam, keep your hand on the plow. He’ll bring the increase when it’s time.

Final Word: Protecting and Defining Your Normal

At the end of the day, the goal is simple: wake up every day and live a life that feels full, even when the world is going crazy.

So fam, take time to write down what “normal” is for y’all. Protect it. Build on it. Scale it when it’s time. And stop letting outside voices shake your rhythm.

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